How can I win her over?

by Rod Smith

I have read your column with interest. A woman friend and I have known each other for twelve years and get on well. She went through a marriage to guy of one year and now is in process divorce. I have strong feelings for her and try to help out where can. She has “friend type” feelings for me. What can I do to win her over to love and later marriage?

Give her LOTS of ROOM

I am pleased my column has won your attention. You might want to wait and give her a lot of room to get through, and then over, her divorce. Even if she wants the divorce there is always fallout. So, you are not seeing her as she really is at the moment. She is probably not herself while facing an unknown future.

The best way to love her is to tell her she is free to mourn (or to be angry) and to get beyond her failed marriage. Life is LONG. Give her room. If she’s going to be your partner nothing you do will stop it. If you share all the power of mutual attraction and you are intelligent about being available, but not overwhelming for her, nothing will halt the natural progression your relationship will take.

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