Archive for August, 2012

August 26, 2012

My mother told me my dad doesn’t love her anymore

by Rod Smith

“It has been a year since my mother told me that my father said he didn’t love her any longer. And I am still bitter. I am bitter at the fact that my own mom told this information to me. She doesn’t know how badly that hurt me. And how angry it made me. They are still together. They apparently were able to work things out. I feel that it is faked. My mother has really become someone completely different. Putting my father before her and her children. I love my parents but I have so much pent up anger and hostility that I just don’t know what to do. My mom has no job and a lot of the day she sleeps and does nothing. My dad works and is a nice man but is so unreliable and does things on his own accord. I know that these issues are theirs but it drives me crazy.”


I’d suggest you find help for yourself and allow your parents to make sense of their own lives.

While letting you in on her life with your father was clearly not in your best interests, it is done.

Begin building something you can love by dealing with your anger with someone who is equipped to help you.

August 19, 2012

Red flags, green flags

by Rod Smith

Red flags

“I am so lonely and unhappy alone.”

“I don’t really know what I want I just know I want to be married.”

“All I want to do is stay home and give my life to my children.”

“He is the spiritual leader of our home and so he makes all the decisions.”


Green flags

“It would be really fun to be in a romantic relationship but I can’t imagine a life that is more fulfilling than the one I already have.”

“I want to have a sound education, land a job I can love, and marry someone as happy and fulfilled as I am.”

“Of course I will love and care for my children but making them the center of my universe is unlikely to be good for the children or for me.”

“I give up thinking for no one, especially not my husband. Both of us need my brain to be fully functioning.”