Archive for January 12th, 2010

January 12, 2010

Two women talk about marrying men with children…

by Rod Smith

“My step children (12 and 14) are wonderful and give my husband and me no trouble at all. At the smallest signs of conflict my husband and I get together and we form a united front and we phone his ex-wife and discuss what is causing the issue. We use the ‘no blame’ approach by listening as much as possible. I love being a step mother and the children have no problem understanding that I am not even trying to take the place of their mother. This did not happen overnight and it was definitely the result of moving very slowly at first. Trust was very hard to build and I found I had to build it most with his ex-wife so she’d not be overly concerned about who it was who was also parenting her children.”

“I really hate being a stepmother. The children divide us all the time. He takes his children’s side over me every time even if they are obviously in the wrong. His ex-wife is harsh and controlling and I can’t wait for them all to grow up and leave home.”

(Conversations paraphrased with permission)