“It has been a year since my mother told me that my father said he didn’t love her any longer. And I am still bitter. I am bitter at the fact that my own mom told this information to me. She doesn’t know how badly that hurt me. And how angry it made me. They are still together. They apparently were able to work things out. I feel that it is faked. My mother has really become someone completely different. Putting my father before her and her children. I love my parents but I have so much pent up anger and hostility that I just don’t know what to do. My mom has no job and a lot of the day she sleeps and does nothing. My dad works and is a nice man but is so unreliable and does things on his own accord. I know that these issues are theirs but it drives me crazy.”

I’d suggest you find help for yourself and allow your parents to make sense of their own lives.

While letting you in on her life with your father was clearly not in your best interests, it is done.

Begin building something you can love by dealing with your anger with someone who is equipped to help you.

“Help me out. When is it acceptable for your partner to go through your phone messages and personal in-boxes? I am going through a really tough time at the moment. I’m in a bit of a toxic relationship. I know I need to let go and detach but he’s playing on my emotions and manipulating me.”

Never. It is never acceptable to open another’s mail unless specifically requested on a specific occasion.
 

“I have been married for 40 years. I have made serious financial mistakes in our marriage largely due to extreme fear of my husband’s temper and inability to talk to him. After his father’s death two years ago my husband sought out psychics who now have him talking to his dead father. They have mapped out a new life for my husband telling him to end our marriage. No amount of begging, crying, can get him to agree to counseling. He fully believes what his new friends are telling him and nothing else matters. Our whole family believes he needs mental health evaluation. I do not know what to do. Do you have any advice? I realize counseling will be long and hard but I firmly believe you do not throw 40 years away because a psychic tells you to leave. This made sound made up, but it is the honest truth. You would not believe all the weird things he is now into.”

Convincing the convinced is impossible. Attempting to force or cajole your husband will only drive him closer to what you do not want. As difficult as it may seem, your hope lies in placing a firm focus on what you want and what you will do with your future.