“I bite my nails and so I hide my fingers so the bleeding tips of my fingers cannot be seen. I’ve tried everything to stop. I do it unconsciously. I catch myself but by then my fingers is bleeding and hurting. Please help.”

Treat your nails with love and care

While nail biting (chronic onychophagia) is often associated with nervousness. I’d suggest it is sometimes simply a habit to overcome:

A: Make a decision to conquer the habit.

B: Keep your decision a secret at least for two or three weeks or until the change is evident.

C: Carry at pocket tube of hand lotion and apply it to your fingertips and hands frequently during the day.

D: Every time you get the urge to place a finger in your mouth the odor of the lotion will remind you to apply the lotion instead.

Within a very short space of time (three to five days) you will see new growth in your fingernails. Keep at it. Offer your fingernails tender love and you will be surprised at how rapidly they reward you with growth, strength, and beauty enough to require the care of a manicurist.

While I know this appears simple, this is an approach I developed. It worked for me, I’ve seen it work for others, and I hope it works for you.

Second marriages are not “fresh beginnings” as many couples would like to believe. A failed first marriage, no matter what the reasons for its disintegration, will cast some shadows over the second marriage.

Wise couples acknowledge this, accommodate the learning and talk about it – and thus diminish its power.

Naïve couples blissfully ignore the past until it blindsides them a little while after the honeymoon – if they are lucky enough for it to wait that long.