A positive attitude towards the stepchildren can go a long way to a blissful existence

by Rod Smith

“I am also a step-mom to teenage boys ages 13 and 15. When I’m parenting my husband’s sons who live with us most of the time, I make sure their father is informed about everything. We usually have our ‘couple time’ at the end of the day when we talk about just about anything under the sun with parenting his sons included. His attitude is that this is our house and the boys have to abide with whatever rules I have made. I think I make sensible rules as my appreciation to him for giving me a free hand at parenting. These rules are usually about maintaining a clean and tidy house, good moral conduct, and maintaining a moral high ground. A positive attitude towards the stepchildren can go a long way to a blissful existence. It is futile to ‘fight’ the children whom I knew were part of the package when I married their father.”

Thank you for your gracious insights. Your capacity to communicate as a couple, your husband’s confidence in himself, in you, and in his children, and your combined ability to be consistent, has made a joy for you what is a nightmare for some.

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