Archive for January 6th, 2011

January 6, 2011

She always rejected me but now ……

by Rod Smith

“I am single male 30, educated, professional. My parents’ background is Pakistani. I have never been married and never had any children. A woman I know is 31 and from Germany where she lives with two boys ages 3 and 2. I have known her for nine years. We met and she moved to Germany. She always rejected me when we were young and she was single. She now wants to divorce her husband and spend the rest of her life with me. My family will never accept her and her family will never accept me. Please guide me.” (Edited)

You potential relationship sounds fully loaded with problems. First off, she is married. If she divorces, and is single, for at least two years, and then wants to be with you that it another matter.

It seems you are an escape route for her right now.

You are going to need and want family (your family) and so I’d respectfully submit to you that the scenario you are placing before me is not a good platform for a healthy life together.

Of course I can be wrong, but I suggest your single life will be far more attractive to you than the complications you will invoke if you head in her direction.

January 6, 2011

Friedman challenge in a nut-shell….

by Rod Smith

New day – and an opportunity to value adventure over safety, challenge over empathy, and to develop the stamina to face natural systemic resistance (sabotage) that comes with being alive.

(Rabbi Ed. Friedman’s books are a must!)