He’s divorcing me this week….

by Rod Smith

“I married a man two years ago and this week he is divorcing me. I brought my son (14) and he has older sons. His sons did not accept me as their mom who had died several years ago. I did everything for them to like me. His kids did nothing to integrate my son at all. My husband is a lovely, kind man who never raised his voice and does not like confrontation. When he married me, he said that he has never loved like this! If asked why he is divorcing me he says he does not love me, that home life was not right, that he still loves his wife who’s passed on, that he has nothing to live for inside of him, and he is trying to find himself. After two months (as I have moved out) he says he loves me and I am his soul mate. But he is still going ahead with the divorce. Please help.” (Edited)

As devastating as this is for you, it is time to get your focus off him and his behavior and onto you and your son. Surround yourself with a community of healthy friends (not those who will ONLY help you commiserate) and begin to plan your future.

One Comment to “He’s divorcing me this week….”

  1. I feel for you. It is good truthfully that you may be leaving the situation. I raised my step-sons because the BIO-mom did not WANT to. I made sacrafices and was always there for them. She became a Reverand and is now a saint in the eyes of the two sons I raised. It doesn’t matter that she was never there for them she has convinced them that I was the enemy that kept them away. Truth is, I was just her babysitter and maid while she lived a carefree life was a career college student and had no responsibility. I loved my stepsons, now I don’t see them now that they are grown. “I was too hard on them”, they say. My husband who was in the Army was gone a good deal of the time. They now tell him if he wants to see them he has to leave me, they are in the middle twenties in age. He told them “to have a nice life.” They wanted play time Mom like BIO-mom. Know that you did your best and move on to someone who appreciates your giving heart.

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