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October 21, 2008

Partner abuse does not stop at physical violence….

by Rod Smith

Partner abuse is not restricted to physical violence. Emotional and psychological abuse, while leaving no visible scars, can be as devastating as an act of violence. If your relationship is leaving you drained, if it is eroding your confidence, if it is isolating you from others, and if it feels more like a prison sentence than a platform for love and adventure, you are probably in a controlling, abusive relationship.

If any of the following is true for you, I’d suggest you get “outside” help.

1. When you try to talk about your feelings, your partner railroads the discussion, giving you no time to think, feel or express yourself.
2. You can’t discuss what is bothering you.
3. Your partner criticizes, humiliates, and undermines your ideas, dreams, and any views you express.
4. Your partner tries to isolate you from your friends and family.
5. Your partner stops you from working, keeps you “in line” by withholding money.
6. Your partner has stolen from you and run up debts in your name.
7. Your partner destroys things that belonged to you, opens and reads your mail, checks your phone bill and reads your emails.
8. You are afraid of the person you are supposed to be closest to.