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October 12, 2008

I hate being a so-called stepparent…

by Rod Smith

“You never win when you are a stepparent because the child comes first and the child can never be wrong in the parents’ eyes. If any stepparent says anything negative about the child regardless how young or old, we will always be seen as the evil one. My ‘fiancé’ said we will not get married until his son and I get along which means he wants me to look the other way when his son orders me around and talks to me anyway he wants too because daddy isn’t going to do anything about it. But I will not put up with it either from anyone but my own parents. I am forty and no twelve-year-old has the right to tell me what to do. I hate being a so-called stepparent. It’s making my life a living hell and I am so miserable because I am always the one to blame for everything!”

I’d suggest both “daddy” and “stepmother” do a little growing up before walking down the aisle. When a forty-year-old writes like an angry twelve year old might write, I can only wonder what’s going on in the home! Stop fighting. Get some distance. You are not peers and yet is seems you are fighting like angry little siblings. Besides, if you hate it before you’re married you most certainly won’t find it too attractive once you are. What is in this for you? A man who treats you like a child and a boy with whom you seem to have issues of sibling rivalry. Then, and I must ask, why do you, an adult, allow your parents to treat you with any degree of disregard? Herein perhaps lies something of the root of the issue.

October 12, 2008

How to become better company…

by Rod Smith

1. Listen more than you talk.
2. Ask appropriate questions (some things really are none of your business!) and listen to the answers.
3. Look people in the eye.
4. Don’t answer your cell-phone, or read or send text messages, in the middle of a face-to-face conversation.
5. Don’t brag or play one-up-man-ship.
6. Don’t unload your life’s details on people you hardly know.
7. Don’t talk about past relationships or past illnesses.
8. Avoid unnecessary detail.
9. Don’t criticize others.
10. Avoid conversations about politics, sex, religion, or the state of the nation with people whom you have just met.