Archive for October 20th, 2008

October 20, 2008

“I sent the other woman a big red ‘A’……

by Rod Smith

“I am a wife, and when the ‘other woman’ called me, my husband broke down and told me everything. He stopped seeing her that day and he hasn’t looked back. She calls and Emails him all the time, begging for him to come back to her. Now that we are in counseling our lives are starting to heal. I recently sent her a letter and a big “A” painted red as a present to her work. Then I ran an add in the paper that said ‘Congratulation Xxx’ you earned the A all by yourself.’ So when friends asked her what it means, she will either have to come clean or make up a lie!” (Minimal edits)

This is not the approach I’d endorse, but it apparently makes you feel totally in control of your life and marriage once more. I hope the counseling and the marriage you are re-building, keeps you together and fulfilled for a very long time.

I will remind you, if you have read this column for any length of time, that extra-marital affairs are very seductive. They help the participants (perpetrators and victims) shift focus off what is really bugging the marriage.