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October 13, 2008

He refuses to acknowledge the pregnancy or me…..

by Rod Smith

“I am at my wits end. I would like to see my family work. I met my boyfriend six years ago. We have a son (2) together. I had an affair and, as a result, he moved out. When we reconciled earlier this year, he kept on seeing the girl he had begun dating after we broke up. I fell pregnant. I am now four months along and he refuses to acknowledge the pregnancy or me. He went to the extent of accusing me of trying to destroy him because I refused to terminate the pregnancy. He is adamant that I am trying to trap him with this pregnancy. Though a part of me wants to let him go, because he is manipulative and verbally abusive, I can’t seem to let go. How do I begin to move on?”

Each of you has been wounded, and in turn, has inflicted some wounding. I’d suggest you attempt to place significant energy upon caring first for your own physical and emotional well-being, and then upon caring for your unborn child and two-year-old son. Do this before you try to understand or unravel your conflicted adult relationships. Children need adult parents and it appears that neither of you, mother nor father, is taking that role very seriously.