Six challenges for you and me…..

by Rod Smith

Increase your tolerance for pain (of those whom you love and your own) – this will keep you out of “rescue mode” with those whom you love and decrease your likelihood of engaging in your own unhelpful behaviors.

Focus on being a step-down transformer (rather than a step-up transformer) for the anxiety that surrounds you. Reduce rather than amplify surrounding anxieties.

Develop and eagle eye so you may see your life from afar and from “above.” Look beyond today for the larger context of who you are and what you are called to accomplish.

Listen patiently to others without waiting to speak. You do not have to agree but it is essential that you listen. Perhaps the only tangible evidence of love is that we listen to those whom we say we love.

Forgive before it is asked of you and especially if it is not. This is, of course, about you and not about those who are in need of your forgiveness.

Develop a “long-haul” mentality for your family and other intimate relationships. People are allowed to fail, people are allowed to let you down, other people are as fallible as you are. A long-haul mentality encourages you to stay with it even if things don’t go your way.

2 Comments to “Six challenges for you and me…..”

  1. Very good advice. Others being allowed to fail and let you down is really something to think about, we don’t accept that do we…nobody is perfect.

  2. Very timely for me, thanks Rod; especially the ‘having an eagle eye’ bit.

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