I cheated but my husband still loves me…..

by Rod Smith

“I decided to cheat on my husband. I won’t give excuses. I had always been a very strong woman. I always thought that any woman who left her marriage and split up her family didn’t deserve respect. Well, it happened to me. I met a man fourteen years younger than me. He was shy, sensitive, and handsome. We started text messaging one another late at night and then we eventually started seeing each other. I became obsessed with him. I moved out of my home and split my five children with my husband. This was the beginning of the end. The relationship with this other man lasted on and off for five years. I became a very angry woman. Anyway, during all of this insanity my relationship with my children was almost completely severed and they all began living with their father. Through this my husband maintained love for me and he’s been my friend. I know I love my husband still but I’m not in love with him. How do I re-establish an ‘in love’ feeling with my husband.” (Edited)

Being “in love” and becoming obsessed with someone are poles apart. Perhaps you can live without the “in love” feeling in return for the stability and sanity your saintly spouse offers.

4 Comments to “I cheated but my husband still loves me…..”

  1. If you believe that you love your husband then you do not understand love. What you are really doing is killing him from the inside out. Any man who has been through this will tell you that it just eats them alive. If you think that you love him then do him a favor…divorce him and never see or speak to him again. He needs you like he needs heroin.

  2. I see the validity in Rod’s answer and in Jilted’s answer as well – having been cheated on by my husband and having tried to keep things together anyway. I’ve given up.

    Without wanting to sound harsh, I have to say that If you found it within yourself to put your needs ahead of those of your family’s for 5 years, the damage is done. Your husband does not need you to TRY to love him . He may want to read the book “How to break your addiciton to a person” as an addiction is the only possible explanation for him still “loving” you. This book changed my life by getting me out of the rut I was in emotionally, waiting for my cheating husband to come home.

    He deserves to find someone who does not need to TRY to love him – and you should also find someone you love, If you return to him and he takes you back – one day soon he will resent you for it. He may think he is okay with living with all that has happened but when you are all settled in again, he will start asking himself some questions and realize that he’s not okay with it. I did.

  3. Newhorizons is right. No one deserves to be married or remain to be married to someone whose not in love with them…….not for stability, not for kids, not for money or any reason. Earn respect back with your children by loving yourself and loving them back…….on there own terms and timeline…….and divorcing the man you love but are not in love with. The two of you as loving partners in co-parenting will give the children more stability and sanity that way then the two of you together married but not in love.

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