Archive for February 20th, 2011

February 20, 2011

Dating a single mother sucks……

by Rod Smith

“I suggested my girlfriend and her 4-year-old son move in with me. The second day I knew it was a bad idea. Dirty plates, food, clothes everywhere; disorder, chaos. Sometimes I hate the boy. He manipulates my girlfriend. He is destroying our relationship. We talk about it and she says, ‘He’s just a kid.’ He is ADHD and she won’t use medicine. Every time we go to the cinemas we have to leave in the middle because the boy can’t sit still. In restaurants he is under the table and throws food. The boy NEVER has a punishment and now he punches us. I doubt our future. I don’t want the boy in my life. She rarely bathes him so he smells bad. She makes him to watch television on my bed and I hate to go to my bed and smell her child. I cannot rest in my bedroom. I really love her. My family says that i must leave her. Dating a single mother sucks.”

So, how do you really feel? It seems mother and son need something you are not equipped to offer. Tell the woman your truth with the willingness to act upon it. This environment is not serving anyone of the three of you well.

February 20, 2011

The content needs to be extended to men …..

by Rod Smith

“I am a clinical psychologist, marital and family therapist with 25 years of experience I have just read your daily column about women who lose themselves (Friday, February 18, 2011). Usually I agree with you write and I advise my clients to read your column. I agree wholeheartedly but the content needs to be extended to men. I see too many men who try too hard to please their partners and in the process lose their own identity, which of course wasn’t too strong in the first place.”

Anky Willemsen, Westville

February 20, 2011

I crave his attention….

by Rod Smith

“My husband and I have been married for several years and have two girls (8 & 4). We are good friends and parents. My husband chooses not to passionately kiss me, I have received pecks for I don’t know how long. At first I was insecure about my breath. Then I took a look at him and realized it was his insecurities with bad teeth problems. I crave his attention and have never had a hickey. For the longest time I thought it was my not being pretty enough. Please help.” (Radically shortened and corrected)

Please read Roberta M. Gilbert’s Extraordinary Relationships. Also, although it probably has nothing to do with the lack of kissing between you and your husband, get your whole family appointments with a dentist.