Archive for February 28th, 2006

February 28, 2006

Shaping a child’s future

by Rod Smith

Let your child see he is capable of much good by encouraging him to be generous and kind toward others. If you, the adult, in your own life, place high value on generosity, the child growing up around you will form deep and lasting memories of your generosity and he will be empowered to seek a lifetime of giving.

Let your child see you give. Let him see you assisting in relieving the suffering of the poor, let him see you standing for justice and doing what is right.

Allow your child to see, as early as is possible, that his actions have consequences so that the world will not take him by surprise when it expects much of him. Let him see his moods can affect others, that his attitudes can be his best friends or his ardent enemies. Do this so that he will not be surprised when people expect him to take full responsibility for his life.

You, the parent, are the most powerful means of showing your child how adults behave, how the world works, how to be an effective and loving human being.

You, the parent, can do this from the earliest of days, and all without using guilt or blame.

February 28, 2006

My son heard the dreaded words, “I need space.”

by Rod Smith

“‘I need my space,’ (The Mercury. Friday February 24, 2006) were the few words said to my son upon returning overseas and on the day he was to propose to his girlfriend. He was home for Christmas and for three weeks she called him every day. Now he has been thrown into a state of collapse. Your article was so real for me, and, being a mom so far away I am writing to you to know what advice I should be give. I have gone from being sympathetic to having a hard line attitude. At the same time I don’t want to close our line of communication. He has given her a second chance, which lasted two weeks. He is slightly better but from being a positive bubbly chap to being a heartbroken negative person whom I don’t know.”

I’d suggest you leave it completely up to him. If your son had the courage and strength to find love (or what he thought to be love) in a far off place he probably has what it takes to survive this break up.

Engagements, or plans to marry, are easier to break than a marriage. It is better this couple gets the “space” it needs before a marriage than after it. It is a lot cheaper!