Lies girls are fed and often appear to believe:

• Your body is more important than your brain therefore focus on your body, not your brain. Your body will get you further than your brain. Your body is bait. Use it well for a fine catch (riches, status – things you can’t get alone). Other people are more important than you. You are on Earth to serve, particularly all males.
• Once a husband finds you, your greatest calling is to be a mother. If you have other ambitions you will compromise your mothering. Your only worthwhile ideas pertain to cooking, cleaning, and childcare; leave thinking about sciences, technology, and mathematics to males.
• Once you are in love you will give up yourself for your husband and your children. This is what love is. You are a half. When you meet a man and marry you will become whole. If you suffer in silence and allow others to use you God will reward you.

Having addressed female audiences in the USA, Southern Africa, and in three Asian countries, I perceive these covert and overt messages to girls remain consistent. Perhaps saddest is that when girls find faith, they often expect God to be the ultimate male, issuing similar messages, demands, and expectations.

Posted on January 27, 2018 at 10:32 am in Anger, Betrayal, Boundaries, Children, Communication, Difficult Relationships, Domination, Faith, Family, Forgiveness, Friendship, Grace, Shame, Teenagers, Therapeutic Process, Triangles, Triggers, Trust, Victims, Violence, Voice, Womanhood, YWAM   |  RSS feed |   Reply   |   Trackback URL