I am completely invisible to her…..

by Rod Smith

“My husband’s sister treats me like I am completely invisible. When I have requested that we talk about it, my request is refused. My sister-in-law affirmation is not important to me. However what is important is that my husband does not speak up. This concerns and hurts me greatly. We have been married for 19 years. Only in the two years, since my sister-in-law got divorced, has my husband had much to do with her.”

Live fully anyway

Your husband is a wise man if he is opting to keep out of relationship problems that do not involve him. As an adult woman you do not need anyone, not even your husband, to run interference for you. I do not know how you will get the recognition you want, but do not need, from your sister-in-law. Efforts will fail if he tries to clear a path for you to his sister.

Live a full life anyway, despite your invisibility to her. The passive party in any relationship is the one who is in control (leading or determining the outcome) of the relationship.

I think it is your husband’s attention you crave. Address this with him without begging. Get his attention and, for good or for ill, his sister will surely begin to notice you.

One Comment to “I am completely invisible to her…..”

  1. I have the same problem with my sister in law. I have no idea why and it is very hurtful. She does not ignore my other sister and I am really not sure why I get this treatment. I constantly struggle with how to handle this. I try to not let it bother me but it does and I think my teenage daughters see it. It is hurtful to them to see their mother’s feeling hurt. How can I play this out better so my kids are not hurt and feel bad for me? Thanks

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