Archive for July 30th, 2010

July 30, 2010

I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT I AM THE VILLAIN AS YOUR COLUMN CLAIMS

by Rod Smith

I left this letter “as is” — before I respond to the writer, I thought I let it “sit” with you, the reader on the web. I did send a letter to the original writer to clarify what he means by “cut off her water” — this is not a term I am aware of and cannot imagine he expects his wife to live without water! We’ll wait and see. I also asked him to drop the capitals unless he is actually intending to yell at me.

The original writer responded: “Firstly, no shouting intended, I always use capitals, but point taken. Onto your enquiry, cutting off her water means exactly that, no money, car or internet etc.”

7/30/2010

HI ROD:

I SUBSCRIBE TO THE MERCURY AND READ YOUR COLUMN DAILY. TODAY’S SUBJECT IS RATHER INTERESTING, AS I HAVE BEEN MARRIED (NOT GREAT LATELY) FOR 26 YEARS AND I HAVE THREATENED MY WIFE WITH YOUR “IN LINE” CLAUSE IN DESPERATION ON A FEW OCCASIONS, WHILE NEVER HAVING CARRIED IT THROUGH.

I CANNOT AGREE MORE THAT EMOTIONAL ABUSE FOR EITHER PARTNER IS DEVASTATING, HOWEVER WHAT YOU FAIL TO MENTION AND IN DOING SO MAKES THE AGGRIEVED PARTNER READING YOUR COLUMN TODAY FEEL VINDICATED, AS WHY AND / OR WHAT DRIVES THE OTHER PARTNER TO THREATEN THIS ACTION.

ON MY WIFE’S REQUEST, WE ATTENDED COUNSELLING AT HER CHURCH AND YEARS LATER WITH A GENUINE CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST. AS SOON AS THE CHURCH COUNSELLOR AGREED WITH ME, MY WIFE CLAIMED THAT THE COUNSELLOR WAS USELESS AND THAT WAS THE END OF THAT. YEARS LATER THE PSYCHOLOGIST DIAGNOSED HER BEING “NARCISTIC” AND THIS TOO (ONCE SHE HAD READ UP ON IT) WAS NOT ACCEPTED.

BASED ON THE ABOVE, MY LAST RESORT AT TIMES HAS BEEN TO “CUT HER WATER OFF” AND IN DOING SO, I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT I AM THE VILLAIN AS YOUR COLUMN CLAIMS.

YOUR COMMENTS WILL BE MOST WELCOME.