I was about to give birth when he told me he didn’t love me anymore…

by Rod Smith

“My husband, after eight years of marriage, told me, when I was about to give birth to our second baby girl, that he was not in love with me anymore. She is now 18 months old. This has been the worst 18 months in my life. He stayed and I have done some very compromising things to make him love me, including getting breast implants. I know I cannot change his mind because I have done everything I can. In the meantime have missed the last year and a half of life with my beautiful girls. I think women think we can fix everything. I am slow to discover I cannot.” (Minimally edited and shortened)

dsc_0642Indeed, I hope you and your children will find the future you really want. While the pain of your immediate past could totally debilitate you, I hope it is clear that to be immobilized by your husband’s inconsideration will not bode well for your family’s future. Perhaps, one of the saddest aspects of your letter is your apparent naïve belief that modifying your breasts would be enough to keep your husband. Dare I say that a man who stays in a marriage for the shape and size of breasts is not worth keeping?

3 Comments to “I was about to give birth when he told me he didn’t love me anymore…”

  1. There is a great opportunity to learn from this experience as you move on with your self and your girls.
    Rod is correct, love is unconditional and modification to the way we look in anyway should never be a condition of love or affection.

  2. Anybody who is cruel enough to tell you he doesn’t love you before you give birth to his child, is
    capable of killing you. easily.

    There is no woman on earth who can change a man.
    Except for his mom when she changed his diapers as a baby.

    As I grow older (ha!) I realise more and more what Jesus meant when He told us not to cast our pearls before swine.

  3. AMEN!!!! He will regret leaving you when he grows up and realizes what he has lost…
    and I suspect that you will have a much better life when he is gone. You can do much better than this. Your daughters deserve better than to live seeing their mother degraded by such a sorry excuse for a human being, too.

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