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June 30, 2008

Helping yourself recover from a romantic break-up…

by Rod Smith

1.    Even though you do not feel like it, “force” yourself into a loving and supportive community. Go out with old friends, join a club or a church, find a new interest that is shared with “new” people.
2.    Tell one person everything. Don’t choose someone too close to the situation, or someone who has also recently faced a break-up, or someone who already has an ax to grind with the ex. Avoid turning these discussions into “pity parties” or “beat-up” sessions – neither will serve your greater mental health.
3.    If it is at all possible, get with supportive members of your family, especially your parents. Re-visiting your roots will be surprisingly refreshing even if difficult.
4.    Don’t beg or bargain for reconciliation no matter how much pain you are in.
5.    Learn as much as you are able from the breakup and see what elements of the relationship you will determine not to repeat in the future.
6.    Focus on your behavior and not on the behavior of you ex.
7.    Avoid waiting for a phone call, an email, a text message, in the hopes he or she will make contact. Find your freedom apart from him or her even if you have to fake it for a while.