A simple truth that will lead you to greater health and freedom…

by Rod Smith

“Horse and carriage” drives within you: deny either at your own peril…

A is for Autonomy*: a powerful instinctual longing within you. It’s the desire to be self-directed and separate. It is the “you” who wants to be free of all responsibilities. It is the “you” that fears absorption; the “you” who wants to let your hair blow in the wind, feel the sun on your back and go! It’s the lone-ranger and pioneer spirit within you. This desire is God-breathed, God-inspired and a necessary part of your growth. This need can be met, not by irresponsibly severing ties, but through regularly finding time to be alone.

I is for Intimacy: a powerful instinctual longing within you. It is the desire to nest. It is the “you” who wants to belong, be known, to be part of a family. It is the “you” who fears abandonment and longs for a shared journey. This is the part of you that longs for the sounds, symbols and reality of a shared life. This desire is God-breathed, God-inspired and a necessary part of your survival and growth. This need is met through regularly spending time in a loving family or community.

A with I = Emotional Health / A without I = Selfish Avoidance / I without A = Selfish Indulgence

*A is for Autonomy is the title of my new, up-and-coming book!

2 Comments to “A simple truth that will lead you to greater health and freedom…”

  1. D is for Differentiation of Self the elusive balance between the A and the I, where we flourish.

  2. you have been reading my notes —- that is after B is for BOUNDARIES …….. and C is for CHALLENGE and the D is for Differentiation…..

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