Six observations, almost always true about families…..

by Rod Smith

dsc_0642Axioms (observations that are almost always true) for families:

A man or woman who has an open, friendly, respectful, and playful relationship with his or her own parents will seldom have problems with his or her in-laws.

Extra-marital affairs are symptoms of a troubled marriage and not the cause of trouble in a marriage.

The teenager who is open and friendly and kind to his or her parents is laying the foundation for a happy and open and friendly relationship with his or her future spouse and children.

When children “take over” a family, and become the center or the glue of a marriage, relational carnage (with the marriage and even possibly with the children) waits in the wings.

The couple that engages in sex, but never discusses it, will finally end up discussing (or arguing about) why one or the other partner has lost all interest in sex.

People who can stand up to each other (resist poor treatment; declare what he or she will or will not do; speak up about what he or she really feels) are more likely to have a lasting relationship than people who relent or give in to each other’s wishes in the name of love.

4 Comments to “Six observations, almost always true about families…..”

  1. All words to live by; especially the latter. Perhaps that’s why I struggle – too easy with fulfilling the needs of others and sabotaging my own needs.

  2. Very sage advice! Thank-you for sharing.

  3. I am going through some tough therapy and emotional hell right now, trying to live responsibly by others and myself. I find much wisdom in standing up for one’s needs without the fear of loss of affection or love. I have lived my entire life of 49 years to please my parents and others out of fear of disappointing them to the point that I have completely sabotaged any true happiness and joy I could have experienced with a soulmate. This site has helped me calm down a little for the past five minutes. Thanks.

  4. Samuel:

    I am so pleased you have written and I am more pleased you found something useful on these many pages.

    Write again. I would happily accept a call from you.

    Rod Smith

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