Invasive sister-in-law….

by Rod Smith

“My sister-in-law is very judgmental when it comes to how I treat my children (8 and 6). She rolls her eyes behind my back, she makes subtle comments, she sighs; she tells other relatives that she wonders what “some of the children in the family” will become. My husband just laughs it off and says she’s been this way since she was five years old. Do I say something or do I just let it go? (Shortened)

Reasonably sane people usually possess an innate knowledge about the rearing of their own children. I’d suggest you trust yourself, and trust your unique children-rearing approach enough to find the mirth within the intrusive “dialogue” you have with your hyper-vigilant sister-in-law.

So, yes, say something, and say whatever you have to say often. Just make sure whatever you say is usually funny. Use your voice to playfully expose her passive aggressive style of communication. A warm, gentle, and playful approach to your apparently stressed sister-in-law is unlikely to foster and change within her, but it is likely to let you off her caustic hook. 

  

2 Comments to “Invasive sister-in-law….”

  1. Good advice! Keep it light.

  2. Ah in laws. Some of the most annoying hard to deal with people. Your brother will not support you – mine never does. Above was good advice to deal with them. Funny but to the point messages. Get people laughing at her and her pathetic behaviour. Hopefully eventually she’ll stop. And I wish you the ability not to care what she thinks! Easier said than done.

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