What do you do if you forgive a person for what they have done to you and they throw it in your face and tell you they didn’t do anything to you in the first place?

by Rod Smith

It appears you seek reconciliation. That takes at least two people. Forgiveness takes one. Apparently you have tried to do your part in releasing and forgiving one who has hurt you. That he or she will not reciprocate does not dilute your gracious act. In the short term it may be less meaningful for you, for you want reconciliation, but the power of forgiveness will still be yours. Forgiveness, both giving and receiving, are a deep matters of the human head and heart. Forgiving takes humility. Receiving it takes greater humility.

3 Comments to “What do you do if you forgive a person for what they have done to you and they throw it in your face and tell you they didn’t do anything to you in the first place?”

  1. i agree with this !! And im having to go through something similar !!

  2. But how do you ask for reconciliation? What do you mean by the use of that term here?

  3. I have the similar problem. I have forgiven for horrendous acts and have also caused pain to my ex-husband. I have asked for forgiveness and want to reconcile. Married 25+ years. We divorced over egos. I was stressed and mentally ill at the time. I love him so much. He says he loves me. He now has a girl friend. I don’t know what to do. Is it too late? We have a family. We have been together for 28 years. He has been with her for 2. Will he forgive me?

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