“There is a TV ad where a pastor is marrying the bride and groom. He says to the bride, ‘Do you take this man to be your husband, in spite of the fact that he will squander your savings, wreck your car and be out of work at least half the time?’ and I wish someone could have warned me of the consequences of marrying my husband. Look up ‘living with a narcissist’ and there he is to a T. Look up ‘women with low self-esteem’ and that’s me. I am trying to make the big break and am finding it incredibly overwhelmingly difficult. He presents such a reasonable demeanor to the world. I am probably in my last decade. I am frightened half to death, immobilized, doubtful of my own abilities, wondering if I am making the biggest mistake of my life swapping financial security (minimal but comfortable) for an adventure. I saw my mother go off on an adventure and it didn’t’ work out that well for her. I’m just prevaricating, cant commit to one way or the other.”
This, I believe, is a “leap before you look” situation. Once you make your decision, your choices will make way for you. You are not your mother.
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