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September 13, 2009

She stays with her ex to care for her horses…..

by Rod Smith

“Every weekend my partner stays with her ex husband because that is where her horses are and it is also nearer where she works on Fridays and Mondays. I have had nearly enough. She says she loves me but we never have weekends together. I think the universe is saying something loudly to me but whenever I try to talk about this I get tears and anger and ‘we will talk next week’ and ‘I love you but I am busy and I am tired and I am looking after the horses.’ I don’t know what to do anymore. Please help.” (Edited)

Go with her....

Go with her....

Join her. Go to her. I am sure you can offer her help in caring for the horses. An ex-husband who is sufficiently hospitable to house your partner’s horses will surely also welcome you. This will give you time to be together as a couple, the horses will get more attention, and your partner will presumably get more rest given your assistance.

“Pushing the system” in such a manner will expose, not what the Universe is saying to you, but what kind of a relationship you have with your partner and what kind of relationship she has with her ex-husband.

September 13, 2009

What’s the least I can expect?

by Rod Smith

What is the least I can expect from a man whom I am seeing who continues to see past girlfriends?

Why least?

Why least?

Why would you go for the “least” of anything, especially in your closest relationship? This is the “real” question to answer. Nonetheless I’d suggest you might expect monogamy, honesty, openness, and a desire to communicate about what is important to each of you.

While seeing past girlfriends (of course without the a component) is certainly possible, when and if it becomes damaging to your current relationship, or is even discomforting to you, I’d encourage your boyfriend to determine what he expects to achieve through maintaining behaviors that are hurtful to his most intimate relationship.