1. Even though you do not feel like it, “force” yourself into a loving and supportive community. Go out with old friends, join a club or a church, find a new interest that is shared with “new” people.
2. Tell one person everything. Don’t choose someone too close to the situation, or someone who has also recently faced a break-up, or someone who already has an ax to grind with the ex. Avoid turning these discussions into “pity parties” or “beat-up” sessions – neither will serve your greater mental health.
3. If it is at all possible, get with supportive members of your family, especially your parents. Re-visiting your roots will be surprisingly refreshing even if difficult.
4. Don’t beg or bargain for reconciliation no matter how much pain you are in.
5. Learn as much as you are able from the breakup and see what elements of the relationship you will determine not to repeat in the future.
6. Focus on your behavior and not on the behavior of you ex.
7. Avoid waiting for a phone call, an email, a text message, in the hopes he or she will make contact. Find your freedom apart from him or her even if you have to fake it for a while.
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3 Comments to “Helping yourself recover from a romantic break-up…”
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i am that situation where she is just finding an excuse to fight everyday, but i told her to get out of my life even if i know i will kill me for a while….
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my situation is where she is just finding an excuse to fight everyday, but i told her to get out of my life even if i know i will kill me for a while….
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I am the one who has been cheated on lied to and my husband has left me for his lover. We have only been separated 1/ 1/2 weeks and I have already cried and begged him to come home trying to tell him just how much I love him and how much I miss him, but it doesnt seem to matter to him of our 12 1/2 years of marriage. I have blamed and expressed to him all of his faults and his wrong doings and his abandonment of his family. Everything I read, I know that I should not do this and that I should just pretend that I am okay and happy and go on doing “normal” everyday things. Well how could I do this; I go to sleep thinking of him and I wake up thinking of him, I feel weak, and every time I hear his voice I just want him to tell me that he made a mistake and his coming home and he loves me. I have small family, mom, sister, and brother. My sister lives in Texas, my brother is busy with his family, and well my mom is just not a big support. I have never been real socialable, what can I do to surround myself with people and things to do. My 9 year old daughter is missing her daddy really bad!!!! and she needs things to do to keep her occupied. She idolizes her daddy and I find myself not even wanting him to talk to her and again I know that isnt right….
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