Girlfriend’s children run right over her and she does nothing about it….

by Rod Smith

My girlfriend has two girls who run right over her and she does nothing about it. The part that upsets me is that she will tell them that if they do something she is going to discipline them and they do it anyway and no action is taken. They get away with things time after time. I was raised totally differently and got what was coming to me. Another thing that angers me is their constant whining. They are used to getting whatever they want. I love my girlfriend but this is an issue that keeps us from growing. Her family and friends all think I am wrong with my beliefs and that she is right. Well society sees it my way when they are being brats in a public place. It gets to the point where I just want to knock their heads off and hers. (Letter edited)

 

Rod responds: Get help for your anger, Sir, before you find yourself in trouble. These children are not going away. The sooner you try to build a positive rapport with them the better. Trying to love, please, discipline, guide, and earn a living, for two little girls, is probably tough enough for your girlfriend. Adding an angry lover into mix must make it unbearable.

2 Comments to “Girlfriend’s children run right over her and she does nothing about it….”

  1. Rod is correct. You anger will serve no purpose here, except to drive a wedge into your relationship and cause more pain and havoc for this family. You must lead with love, lead by example and be paitent. These children and the associated family members will not change just because you say so.

  2. Nothing will ever change. Her lack of consistency with her kids is something learned over the course of time. The kids behavior is a product of inconsistency and flexible boundaries. If she doesn’t draw clear boundaries and consistently mandate compliance then nothing will ever change. I’ve been in a marriage very similar to what you are experiencing and everything was turned around on me that I was too rigid and had unrealistic expectations. If common courtesy and some respect for elders is unrealistic, then you need to leave and never look back!!!

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