The trials of parenting…..

by Rod Smith

Parenting is no cakewalk. My children (8 and 4) are at an age where it seems everything is a battle of wills. If they are not fighting with each other over who is sitting in whose space at the table, or fighting over one toy that neither has noticed for months until the other happens to casually pick it up, they are debating me over the necessity of cleaning their teeth or picking up clothes.

But these are the passing phases on their unique journeys toward necessary self-definition – and it is my continual challenge to see the larger picture.

I am challenged, on a daily basis, to speak well of others, to be honorable to my word (as far as it is possible) and to guard the words that come out of my mouth.

Clearly, as the primary adult in their lives, I am called upon to show them how adults ought to behave, how adults ought to resolve conflict, be forgiving, be kind and generous.

Fighting over a toy in the back of the car, will, I hope, give them fond memories of these formative years. Watching me face the daily grind of living an adult life, will, I hope, impart to them invaluable tools for successful futures.

2 Comments to “The trials of parenting…..”

  1. True, parenting is not for the meek! Parenting is a constant flow of changes.
    You are right, we are the role models, and our children, see, hear and remember everything we say and do, and they are not afraid to use it against us at the most appropriate time.

    It is a challange to always remember that the little eyes and ears are always all over us!
    What an opportunity to stretch and grow ourselves.

  2. Ah Yes, the soulful sounds of my children bickering… πŸ™‚

    I love my stairs. The second step is the timeout step where my youngest (6yrs) still lands at least once a week or so. At the moment it’s usually for whining. Being the youngest, she gets away with far more than my oldest (14 yrs 357 days), which he constantly reminds me of. πŸ™‚ I gently remind him that he’s my ‘experimental child’. He thinks thats funny-kind of our joke.

    I did learn a new trick with the 2 younger ones (8yrs 6yrs)… Toys can go in timeout too, rather than the children fighting over it!!

    It seems to be easier to see the larger picture/end result, as well as, patience/tolerance is easier to come by these days as I am beginning to picture the not too distant future when they are all out of the house, and that picture is bittersweet. I find myself trying to savour more and keep my cool more.

    Glad to hear you are doing well!!
    Thanks, Marcia

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