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January 12, 2006

Mother drinks every day …

by Rod Smith

“My mother drinks a lot every day. I am in second year of university and have to come to quite a lot of chaos almost every day and take care of her. I have done some reading about alcohol abuse and now I know there is nothing I can do to get her to be responsible for her life and to stop drinking. I am an only child. It has been my mother and me for as long as I can remember. My dad was in contact with me when I was a small child but now I do not know where he is. It is very hard to live with drinking. It is very hard, not only for my mother, it is hard for me.”

Rod’s Response: It is not only what you have endured with your mother’s drinking that saddens me, but rather all that you have missed as a result of it. I’d guess you have been “on duty” for longer than you can remember and have all but forgotten how to have fun.

Mothering your mother cannot be very pleasant or rewarding. I hope that at some point you will embark on a journey toward the kinds of goals that would more appropriately reflect the goals of a young and intelligent woman.