• You may not be able to think about anything because such news can be like a powerful anesthetic. Do not be surprised if you feel dizzy and your thoughts and feelings jump around inside you. This may last for a while. You will settle into the new truth about your life and new routines.
• Your parents will probably tell you they still love you and each other. Try to believe it. This can be very confusing. Parents can often forget they are finishing something they started as adults. They’ve had lives without each other before you came along. It can feel like you are losing everything because you’ve never known life to be any other way. For you love, security, and feeling safe are all wrapped in one package. The package always included both parents. Their change shifts everything about your life.
• Now that you’ve been told, don’t be surprised if you think you are the only one who did not know it was coming. Your world is the only one you know. This was how you thought life was supposed to be.
• Many young people create successful lives even though their parents divorced. Decide to do the same.

*Written to 13 and 14 year old

Posted on January 10, 2018 at 11:51 am in Betrayal, Blended families, Boundaries, Children, Communication, Difficult Relationships, Divorce   |  RSS feed |   Reply   |   Trackback URL