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May 9, 2010

Two reader responses to Friday’s column…..

by Rod Smith

“Be assured I always read your column and insights. It’s a subtle barometer of human engagement and generally, I agree with your position and comment. Hmm, guess what’s coming next? Yes, I don’t quite concur with what I suspect was a subjective measure of ‘integrity’ and possible moral overtones regarding an ‘affair’ in a marriage of convenience (column on Friday, May 7, 2010). There are many adults that have the emotional maturity, if not jaded view of an ‘institution’ that is out of line with our real lives, to pursue ‘romantic trysts’. Thrilling, rejuvenating, and often causing entropy, it is perfect in our imperfection. Escalating marital disgust but with apathy to end it, is easily derailed by an affair, but it may even serve to repair and build a relationship! An unwavering position of ‘wrongness’ and that ‘heartache’ is a certainty, accords an inappropriate moralism and naiveté upon many adults in such situations.”

“Thanks for warning me regarding the affair I am probably about to begin. I can’t seem to stop myself. I feel like part of me is on some kind of mission.”