Archive for December 17th, 2009

December 17, 2009

How to ruin the festive season…

by Rod Smith

I've seen all of these done to perfection....!

1. Re-ignite resolved conflicts as if they have never been resolved. If you can’t recall an old conflict, invent one or start something new. Good openers are always “your mother always” or “your brothers are….” or remarks about how someone in the family handles his or her children?
2. Measure love by the price paid for gifts. If you are unsure what something cost, simply ask.
3. Ask for receipts so it makes cashing in or exchanging gifts easier for you.
4. Sneer at handmade or homemade gifts.
5. Get all bent out of shape if someone forgets you – especially if you know it is unintentional.
6. Make the entire festive season about getting what you want.
7. Talk incessantly and loudly (especially about how things used to be) and never listen.
8. Complain as much as possible – the weather, economy, overcrowding, and crime rates are good starters.
9. Wear your feelings on your sleeve so you can be offended as much as possible – especially about things that do not involve you or are none of your business.
10. Practice being as reactive and emotional as possible so you can cause a scene at the drop of a hat.

December 17, 2009

He’s leaving the children and me for someone he found on the Internet…..

by Rod Smith

“My husband told me four weeks ago that he does not love me anymore and he has felt like this for the last seven years. We have three small children and have been married ten years. He has found someone through the Internet and he loves her and he is waiting until after Christmas to see if he will move out. I still love him so much even though he has broken my heart. I don’t know how I am going to carry on. Please help.” (Edited grammar)

Don't hide his actions.....

Although you must face tough issues, it is time for you to go into action. I will offer you only the first step in your long journey: Rally the support of your extended family, in-laws, neighbors, and all you consider friends, and let them all know what you are facing. Call a community meeting if you must. In such conversations, or at such a meeting, do not seek pity, sympathy or revenge. Simply state the truth about what is happening and confess your need of help and support as you face possible desertion from your husband and the father of your children. Do not protect a man who is willing to leave his wife and children for someone he hardly knows, let alone believe he loves.