Archive for June 4th, 2009

June 4, 2009

Siblings

by Rod Smith

Take up your life....

Take up your life....

Of all the wonderful gifts given to men and women, I think I am most blessed with the gifts I have in my brother and sister. My brother has always been larger than life. From where I stood as a child, and being six years my senior, I believed he knew everything about good taste, cars, and the importance of a good education.

When my high school results were published, as they are in South African newspapers (in fact in the pages of the very newspaper where you are reading this column) it was my brother who, whipping through the seemingly endless lists of Smiths, first saw the asterisk perched on the end of my name like a big fat bulging mosquito. He glanced down the page in exactly the manner I did not want, and read, “Does not meet required standards for university entrance.”

Right then, my knees weak with my embarrassment; I knew he’d challenge me to re-write the examinations. This he did, and by April of the following year, I had my “Matric Exemption” (university entrance) in the bag!

Most people, those blessed to have brothers and sisters, will know their siblings for longer than they will know their parents. For each of mine, especially since both of my parents are deceased, I want the world to know I am exceedingly grateful for the gift I have in my brother and a sister.

June 4, 2009

Prevailing love

by Rod Smith

Take up your life....

Take up your life....

Love prevails. I am not referring to the kind of love associated with romance, although such love is of course vastly important. I am referring to a love that is beyond romantic attraction, love that is usually beyond humans unless they know, first-hand, something about suffering, something about loss, hurt, about loneliness and abandonment.

The love that prevails is sometimes born in people who know how painful life can be. I say sometimes, because tough events can also produce bitterness, not love, in others. Prevailing love is not about good feelings, about an emotional high, nor is it about being known or rewarded for good deeds.

The kind of love is born or developed in the wake of suffering prevails because it has learned that there is goodness in others, that there is hope in the world, that there is reward in believing in the goodness of others.

Love people today. Do something counter-cultural to the spirit of self-seeking in your office, at the hospital where you work, or at the school where you teach. Offer a open hand of love and generosity to a struggling person. Turn your own reservoir of pain and suffering into an act of love.

Love prevails, and it wants to prevail in you.