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April 7, 2009

I met a guy last week who is wonderful….

by Rod Smith

“I found myself in an affair during my marriage. My affair was so different to my husband: caring, loving, and he wanted me for what I was. My marriage ended (tragically) and I moved in with the guy I had an affair with. Initially we where very happy, he then had a thing with my sister-in-law and then had an affair with a girl who worked near by. The next two years were absolute hell as he would move out and live with his girl friend for a while and then move back in with me. I should never have allowed this. I did let him in and out of my life as he pleased. He got engaged and they have now set a wedding date. I feel that the chapter in my life is now closed. In the last year I have been doing a whole lot of soul searching and want to make myself into someone I like being with. I felt very empty though in all of this, missing having someone to hold and love.

“Last week I meet a guy who is wonderful. He is everything I have ever liked in a man. He’s attractive, knows exactly where he is going in life. We met through a mutual friend and hit it off from the word go. I then invited him to go to the rugby and we had a wonderful time. We went to a friend’s house for drinks and left there to go home. He called me for coffee and it was very pleasant. We started kissing and got all hot and bothered but I would not let us have sex. I left in the early hours of the morning. We did have contact the next day and the day after that I sent him a message and he replied. I have been out of the dating scene for a very long time and don’t know if I should just see this as one of those flings. I really don’t want to as he is a really nice guy.”

dsc_0642You are far too fresh out of trauma to be seeing anyone, and besides, anyone can be nice for a week. Keep growing, alone. Persist in becoming the kind of person you like being with. A little emptiness is a good thing if it leads to growth. Leave the kissing until you have known a person for a year or three. This will tell you how nice he really is!