He makes fun of me and minimizes our relationship…

by Rod Smith

“I’ve been with my partner for 8 years. When we’re fighting he phones old girlfriends, won’t answer his phone, is extremely verbally abusive, and minimizes our relationship (because we’re not married). He mocks and makes fun of me if I cry. He has destroyed my belongings and stays out all night. He calls a woman behind my back, and faults me for not trusting him. He stayed at her house on one of his ‘all-nighters’ (I found him there). He calls me controlling and says he won’t be told who he can speak to.” (Very minimal edits)

Here we go again! You are an expert in HIS behavior, yet seem blind to yours. Apparently after all this trauma, conflict, jealousy, snooping around, raised voices and humiliating behavior performed by each of you – YOU keep going back for more!

Let the man go on his immature, pathological way. Don’t hold him back. Oh, I know. I am going to get letters telling me I am blaming the victim, that moving out is not that easy, and love will prevail – but this “relationship” (actually it is nothing more than furious-fusion) will never survive. The sooner you pack your bags (or dump his out the door) the better.

8 Comments to “He makes fun of me and minimizes our relationship…”

  1. Partners dance with each other. The man, in or out of your life, is no partner to you. Be a friend to yourself and dump his stuff and him with it. Then start pampering yourself. Do something nice every day just for you. Go have a massage….

  2. Sounds like a nightmare. Pick yourself up and get the hell out.

  3. I read a quote somewhere, “You teach others how to treat you.’ Teach this man that his behavior is unacceptable and not worth putting up with. Get away from him.

  4. You get one of those emails from me. After 8 years – she continues to go back for more?? You can’t blame someone else for what you allow them to do to you by staying in such a horrible relationship – if that’s what you want to call it….

  5. yes, it’s my own fault, I know. guess i was just venting.

  6. god what are you doing with him?you derserve better..sounds like he doesn’t really love you other wise he wouldn’t treat you that way.

  7. I have the same promblem him being me to me laughing at me if i cry,cheating on me,degrading me.And he seems to always suck me back in,and its always the same thing ……its my fault because i have let him do and get away with it

  8. my boyfriend does the same thing but it is only for 10% of our relationship other than that he is wonderful and we have an amazing time together.

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