I am seeing someone else’s wife. This is a real relationship despite what you wrote in “You and Me” a few weeks ago about affairs not being real. We are very close. She stays with her husband for their child’s sake. I am not married. We spend every available moment together. We are in love. It is hard to imagine this is not real. What do you mean? (Letter shortened)
The “for the child” reason is her cop out, and your combined selfishness makes you a perfect match for each other. Congratulations. Each of you has found a way to avoid growing up.
That you feel you are “in love” and feel the relationship is authentic is not in question.
Were the woman to pay the price of committing to you (she is legally committed to her husband) you’d see a shift in what you enjoy with each other.
It is adrenalin, not love, which usually loads affairs with passion and zeal.
Perhaps the loving thing for you to do is to get out of the middle of all this and let the couple sort out their marriage.
Being piggy in the middle is probably not much fun, even if you feel and say it is.
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