• Being caught in the endless crossfire between warring parents.
• Switching sides and armies every few days as you switch territories.
• Being super-over-protected in the name of love and concern when the hyper-vigilance is really a means to get back at the other parent or to suggest the other parent is negligent or not as committed or as loving.
• Hearing constant threats of court hearings and custody hearings and fights over money.
• Not knowing what you can talk about and who you can say you love depending on where you are and who you are with.
• Having your childhood freedoms curbed and stunted because the adults in your life refuse to grow up and so they use you as a trophy in their unresolved stuff that happened years before you were born.
• Having to keep secrets and face weird punishments if you leak information you didn’t know was a secret.
• Hearing both parents say they never speak badly about the other and you know both are lying.
• Loving your mother’s or father’s new man or woman but not being free to say it or show it.

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