Dating a single mother sucks…..

by Rod Smith

“I suggested my girlfriend and her 4-year-old son move in with me. The second day I knew it was a bad idea. Dirty plates, food, clothes everywhere; disorder, chaos. Sometimes I hate the boy. He manipulates my girlfriend. He is destroying our relationship. We talk about it and she says, ‘He’s just a kid.’ He is hyperactive with ADD and she won’t use medicine. Every time we go to the cinemas we have to leave in the middle because the boy can’t sit still. In restaurants he is under the table and throws food. The boy NEVER has a punishment and now he punches us. I doubt our future. I don’t want the boy in my life. She rarely bathes him so he smells bad. She makes him to watch television on my bed and I hate to go to my bed and smell her child. I cannot rest in my bedroom. I really love her. My family says that i must leave her. Dating a single mother sucks.”

None of you is benefitting here....

So, how do you really feel? It seems mother and son need something you are not equipped to offer. Tell the woman your truth with the willingness to act upon it. This environment is not serving anyone of the three of you well.

2 Comments to “Dating a single mother sucks…..”

  1. it sounds harsh but do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone that does look after her own child properly? maybe try and see a family councillor first

  2. Single mothers are highly problematic. I have dated two of them and the relationship typically suffers as a result of the mother-child relationship. This is not just you and me, my friend, but for many people in the US, too. When dating such a woman, one is jumping into the middle of the aftermath of a divorce, in some cases the ex-husband hanging around when the the “new” boyfriend comes in. Then there’s the problem of the mother’s regimen of discipline toward the child, often non-existent. And, what can the “boyfriend” really say or do about the child’s behavioral problems?

    Such “families” have significantly and damaging bitter ends. While single mothers are attractive, when I see one now I run the other way!

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