How to rock the boat without sinking it……

Rock the boat, don't sink it....

1. Do the unexpected – the emotional and relational equivalent of parking in a different spot, using a different stairwell, climbing the stairs rather than using the elevator, or sitting at a different table. This is not to be difficult or to seek attention, but to challenge the well-worn paths that have become too comfortable and predictable for you. Shifting how you relate will be like opening the windows and letting in fresh air.

2. Re-adjust your internal GPS – you make the decisions about how you behave, what you like and dislike, what you do with your leisure opportunities, and the direction you are taking with the years ahead of you. Placing your direction, your likes and dislikes, the use of your time and resources in the hands of others is not an indication of love or friendship. It’s an abdication of personal responsibility.

3. Do what you really love to do. Become an expert in what you love. If you don’t know what you love and are good at, you will assume tasks and responsibilities outside of your set of innate skills. Repeatedly landing tasks you don’t want will bring you no joy. Knowing and doing what you love will make you an asset wherever you are, and, as an added bonus, you will be fun to be around.

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Posted on August 19, 2009 at 4:17 am in Anger, Attraction, Boundaries, Communication, Difficult Relationships, Victims, Voice, Womanhood   |  RSS feed |   Reply   |   Trackback URL

2 Comments to “How to rock the boat without sinking it……”

1. 
   Justin Byron
   August 19, 2009 at 11:06 pm

   Rod, the things talked about in this post are the things I have been hearing from others and have been thinking about for the last few months. I have been thinking about moving out of Indianapolis after living here my whole life and start something new somewhere fresh. I feel like I am going in a circle here and comfortable but I want to see what it is like to live somewhere else while I am young and can. I have decisions ahead of me and I need to let go of my material possessions so my move isn’t costly and just take the things I need where ever I decide to go. I might make the move with one of my best friends because her and I need out of Indianapolis because we feel anchored here, we want to rock our boat without sinking as you said.

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   Carol Welch
   August 20, 2009 at 2:52 pm

   Thanks Rod for succinctly laying out 3 skills that offer freedom. Hmm, three and free rhyme. 😀

   What a simple (not simplistic) and concise 3dom as reminders.

   To honoring the journey and to life…

   In hope,
   cw

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