Why I called his wife…..

by Rod Smith

Woman explains why she called her affair’s wife…

“I was in a relationship with an abusive man who would threaten to tell my children if I left him. He was married and when I received an abusive phone call from him saying he would lie and tell people where we go that I had AIDS when I refused to meet up with him I decided enough was enough. I knew the only way to stop him was to ring his wife and tell her he would not leave me alone. It worked. I knew deep down he was afraid of losing his home, and that he didn’t really love me. My point is that was the only way I could get him to leave me alone was to tell his wife, which I was loathsome to do. I am still trying to get my head around that he lied about loving me. Yes, I did wrong but I didn’t plan it. I now have a bad name because of him as he has lied about me to people where we used to go socially. I was totally taken in and used for his purposes. I wish I could turn the clock back.”

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2 Comments to “Why I called his wife…..”

  1. my x fiancee did the same he was in the raf-how we met-he ‘found’ me 13yrs after we split-married-he lied and took advantage of my vulnerable state-he became obsessive to the point i had no option but to inform his officers-he sold his house and went bk to wife then tried to rekindle the affair-when i pushed him away and never returned calls-he then just kept calling and damaging future dates-he was too ‘controlling’ this week i e-mailed him with threat of police action-i’ve had enough-he’s devious, manipulative and cares for only himself-i don’t know where he lives he just uses a mobile to track me at all times-i’m scared-if you would like to e-mail me maybe we can help each other?

  2. You knew he was married from the beginning, so you at some level knew what kind of man he was. I doubt that his wife was truly surprised by the call. Your realization of what you were involved in is not news to you, simply more aware because this relationship did not work out the way you wanted it to. Hopefully your call to the wife helped to save other women from this man’s behavior. Learn and move on.

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