“My mother left me some valuable furniture and my husband wants to sell it to pay his debts. I really don’t want him to do this. What can I do?”
“My boyfriend says he wants to marry me but he still wants to see other girls for a while. I have put up with this for two years and it never changes. Please help.”
“My sister is taking my mother for a ride. She doesn’t work and she doesn’t pay rent and she gets very cross if I say anything. Please help.”
I have juxtaposed these questions to illustrate that none of these situations happened to readers overnight. Each dilemma developed gradually. The husband already had no regard for his wife, or her belongings, long before furniture entered the picture. The woman who is willing to share a man with other women has already compromised so much and the man has little to lose if she leaves him. The dead-beat sister has been tolerated for so long she has no reason to alter her behavior. Big problems usually begin as smaller issues. The smaller issues should be addressed before they become overwhelming. Nothing ignored, when it comes to relationships, will disappear. What is ignored will only grow in power.
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