Therapy works:

• When clients are highly motivated to grow
• When clients are willing to take risks and do new things
• When clients are willing to be vulnerable with the people with whom they share life
• When clients are willing to face, rather than deny, necessary and inevitable loss
• When clients establish a realistic view of what therapy can and cannot achieve and have realistic expectations of the therapist and the process.

Therapy will be an exercise in treading water and wasted expense:

• When clients go through the motions of getting help without wanting either growth or change
• When clients attempt to outsmart the therapist and therefore treat the process as a game
• When clients have a distorted view of the power therapist have and an unrealistic view of what the process may deliver
• When clients withhold pertinent information
• When the therapist “pushes” or “pulls” clients against their will and in conflict with their abiding loyalties.

Posted on September 5, 2017 at 9:06 am in Anxiety, Betrayal, Blended families, Boundaries, Communication, Differentiation, Difficult Relationships, Education, Family, Family Systems Theory, Leadership, Listening, Therapeutic Process, Triangles, Trust   |  RSS feed |   Reply   |   Trackback URL