• Attraction is only possible between people who are functioning at the same level or emotional health (or the lack of it). If you think you are way ahead of him in any manner and are helping him along, and yet you are attracted to him, you are in strong denial.
• Attraction is far more complex than being simply about looks or dress or a pleasant and attractive demeanor. There are multitudes of people who dress well and who are very good-looking and very pleasant whom you will hardly notice. Deep calls to deep, needs call out to needs, and (un)health attracts (un)health.
• When attraction occurs between highly functional individuals the development of a meaningful relationship may seem to elude them both for a while – simply because healthy people are not driven to find a relationship. People on the other end of the continuum will seem to fall in love in an instant with about anyone who reaches out and the new couple will feel as if they’ve known each other for years even after they have just met.
• Healthy attractions allow for the new couple to include others; unhealthy attractions lead the new couple into isolation.

Posted on July 1, 2017 at 5:27 pm in Addictions, Attraction, Betrayal, Boundaries, Communication, Differentiation, Difficult Relationships   |  RSS feed |   Reply   |   Trackback URL