Archive for July 18th, 2011

July 18, 2011

He’s married, I’m a single mother, he wants me to lie for him…….

by Rod Smith

“I have been in a relationship with a married man for two years. He left open his emails and his wife read them. He asked me to lie and I did. I didn’t want to hurt her or their children. I have tried so many times to end it. I do love him I am disgusted with myself. His wife has told him he will lose his children and house and he told me he would kill himself. So I have supported him so he has the strength to work through his marriage. I don’t know how to stop his emotional need for me to help him. We met was in a training course where he was the teacher. Before me I know of 3 other women he has slept with. What concerns me is he is an authoritative figure where I work I feel he has some major behavioral problems. I really need some advice on how to handle this man without compromising my self or my career. I am a single mother.”

Every ounce of energy you direct towards him supports your mutual pathology. You are at least as troubled and compromised as he is. Until you expose all of this at work it will continue.