1. A couple where each person works on his or her individual distinctness, is more likely to find deeper
intimacy with each other than the couple who gives up individuality for each other.

2. Intimacy is found in the connection of differences, and not in the pursuit of sameness or uniformity.

3. A person who cannot be alone will also find difficulty being together.

4. There is no such thing as instant authentic intimacy (as in say a one-night encounter). It can take years to develop and, ironically, it is often, in romantic relationships, distracted in its development by sexual behavior.

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