I have been taking and picking up my son and daughter for years every second weekend so they can visit their dad – and we are all tired of it. The children are now teenagers and they want to go to his house for shorter and shorter stays less and less often. This is ONLY because the visits are disruptive to the social life they did not have when they were younger. I am going to say it is okay with me if they run it by their dad. Is this going to be detrimental to their mental health in the long term? (Situation synthesized from conversation)

Allowing responsible teenagers to become fully involved in shaping their own circumstances is ideal. While implementing your proposal is unlikely to cause any long term damage, including your ex-husband and your children in a face-to-face discussion regarding these changes will only stand to benefit everyone.

Posted on September 20, 2009 at 6:27 am in Difficult Relationships, Teenagers, Voice   |  RSS feed |   Reply   |   Trackback URL