Archive for February 25th, 2009

February 25, 2009

Her mother wants to be in every detail of our wedding…..

by Rod Smith

My fiancé and I are getting married in about a year and her mother is dominating every aspect of the wedding. Because she is paying for it does it give her the right to get her way in every detail? This upsets my fiancé so much and yet she will not say anything to her about it. Please write something about this – perhaps her mother will read it and back off a little.

dsc_0642I applaud your attempt to triangle me, but I am going to jump out of the middle of this once I have encouraged you to see: 1. It is your wedding. 2. She is your future mother-in-law. 3. You are engaged to a woman who has a voice she might want to use.

You’d all be better served if you all started to talk directly with each other regarding how each of you sees the big day, and what role each of you has in making it happen. If you really desire your bride’s mother to have no say in the design of the wedding, pay for it yourself. A better option would be a series of prolonged, honest discussions.

February 25, 2009

Psychologist wants to medicate our son…

by Rod Smith

A well-respected child psychologist and his school want our son to be medicated for some problems he is having at school. He can’t seem to focus and he gets behind with his work. My husband and I are dead against it. We never had such things when we were growing up and we have heard some horror stories. What do you think?

Your resistance is understandable. By your own admission you have no experience in these matters, and there is much talk of the “over-medication” and the “unnecessary” medication of children.

Air your concerns to the psychologist and listen to his or her answers with open minds.

Your child’s health and success is of primary importance – and – you would be unlikely to resist treatment and medication if, say, he’d broken a bone or had a sinus infection.

Try to get over your understandable prejudices and get your son the help he needs.