Archive for April 4th, 2007

April 4, 2007

My son is dating a woman from another race group…

by Rod Smith

My son (40) is dating a woman of another race group and this is upsetting many members of our family. I have not talked with him about this but I know he knows how I feel. If he marries her this will be his third marriage and he has children from two other women who he divorced. I do not know how to react to this woman and I am sure her family are as suspect of the relationship as we are. Please help. (Letter edited)

Your son is 40! He is already twice married. Surely you have seen that he is making his own way in life and that your affirmation of his choices is probably not too important to him. That his new love interest is a woman of “another race group” ought to be the last of your concerns. I am sure her family are concerned about the man their daughter is marrying, but it is probably not about his race. Their concern probably related to his track-record regarding intimate relationships.

That said, I know many men and woman who have found profound happiness after several former marriages. Embrace this woman. Get over your issues about race and give his new love interest all the support and welcome you can muster.

April 4, 2007

Dreams that disturb…

by Rod Smith

For the past nine years I have been having specific dreams. The dreams are often about my school days, going late for exams, sitting for wrong papers, missing exams totally, field trips / excursions, fights, simple things like that. The dreams are about me and my relationships. I was always studious, well mannered and a nice friendly person easy to get on with people, but these dreams shows a different side of me I felt that I should get into contact with my friends / class mates Searching to find a reason, and for the dreams to stop but they just get worse. They are starting to get more serious and intense, waking up feeling disorientated and scared. The last one, I got up one morning dressed as if it were a normal day arrived at school, people staring my friends running away from me, saying that I was dead and even showed a memorial plaque everything was as clear as day. Is this something I should just ignore hope that one day they will just stop or seek some kind of help? (Letter unedited)

Thanks for writing. There are many persons who consider themselves experts in the analysis of dreams – and I am not one of them! I have published your letter in the hopes that a reader who is such an expert will be able to steer us in a helpful direction regarding your uncomfortable and recurring dreams.